Today on Show Us Your Life at Kelly’s Korner, they are talking about marriage advice. I have only been married for 7 years so I most certainly don’t “know it all” but I have definitely learned a few things through those years so I thought I would pass on some of what I have learned.
Marriage is hard and sometimes painful. I read these two quotes at a time when our marriage was going through a rough patch and thought that they really put it into perspective.
“… The truth is, marriage is damn hard work. Long-term marriage isn’t for sissies. There are times you think about giving up rather than giving in. Not all arguments have happy endings … Creating a lasting marriage is a humbling experience. It’s part skill, part luck, elbow grease and blind determination. It isn’t always pretty … So, I’m here to remind those of you in marriages that get stormy or rocky, welcome to marital territory. It’s part of the deal. Get a good raincoat or 4 wheel drive vehicle for rocky terrain … Working through the tough times – or just surviving them – gives you a chance to right yourselves and reconnect around your strengths and the things you love about each other …”
~Michele Weiner Davis
“God will give you salvation, but He doesn’t GIVE anyone a good marriage. You work for it. You sacrifice. Until you determine to be a good wife, even when you are not treated so, your marriage will never grow. Marriages grow as people grow. You cannot make a better marriage by waiting for the other half to improve. Don’t wait for marriage to make you a better wife and person. It will never happen. If you become the better person, your marriage will improve.
Here is the key. You must determine that, for the glory of God, you will be the kind of wife you should be even if it never changes your husband. ”
- Debi Pearl
Guys, marriage is hard and it requires A LOT of work. It doesn’t “just happen”. So often, I think people get married expecting it to be a constant fairy tale like movies tend to show it. Everyone expects to be Cinderella and find their Prince Charming and live happily ever after with no problems. Honestly though, there is no perfect “Prince Charming” like the movies show. Your husband is human just like you are and he makes mistakes, just like you do. He can not and will not ever be perfect, nor will you. There are problems…. Life happens. Money is tight, a child is sick, in-laws say and do things that cross the line, work is stressful. You have to determine that when it gets hard, you’re still going to be there. You aren’t going to look for an out just because things are difficult. It is going to be hard. There are no if’s, and’s, or but’s, about it. So put on your rain coat and be ready to withstand the storm.